5 Tips to to Increase your Resilience and BounceBackAbility:
1. Attitude of Gratitude – It’s easy to focus on what has gone wrong, what shouldn’t have happened, who’s to blame. Reframe, instead of it being a tragedy, could it be a learning opportunity even if somewhat painful?
I recommend to all my clients that they start a Gratitude Journal. Write down 5 things you are grateful for each night, small things that we take for granted. The act of thinking about things which bring us joy and gratitude will release those feel good chemicals, giving us strength and a different outlook on a potentially stressful situation.
Overtime it becomes a habit to think and see the positives in a situation rather than the negatives
2.What are you Saying? – Watch your language! Are you telling yourself it will be a disaster, you will fail? If so you are more likely to fail and it to be a disaster as that’s what your subconscious will be looking for. Resilient people are kind to themselves. Speak to yourself as you would to your child or best friend.
3.Healthy Body, Healthy Mind – You can’t drive a car without petrol. You can’t make good decisions or handle stress with an unhealthy body? What are you eating and drinking? Listen to your body.
4.Downgrade the Severity – Is it really a tragedy? It is the end of the world? or is it an annoyance, an inconvenience?’
5.Take Control – The event/circumstances may not have been of your choice or your doing but how you choose to react certainly is. Resilient people spend their time and energy focusing on situations and events that they have control over. Those who spend time worrying about uncontrollable events can often feel lost, helpless, and powerless to take action.
I would love to hear from you on any of the points above or on your ways of building up your resilience and bouncebackability.