Does FEAR keep you from making decisions?
- make a decision and then worry about whether it’s the right one?
- avoid making a decision?
- let others make it for you?
- go with the majority but moan about it afterwards?
- blame others for the decisions you’ve made?
As Susan says in Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway© Sometimes I feel like the proverbial donkey between two bales of hay – unable to decide which one I want, and in the meantime, starving to death.
We’ve been programmed from childhood to ‘be careful’. That is to NOT trust ourselves just in case we make the wrong decision often believing the wrong decision could destroy our life. We strive to protect ourselves from failure.
If you’re looking for certainty and perfection, then you will be forever looking and never feel happy or confident with your decisions. That’s if you actually make them, you’re more likely to procrastinate. Here’s some tips to help you move forward.
Tip 1 – Make a Decision Every Day
Decision making is a mental exercise. You need to keep exercising your brain, just like you do your body. You wouldn’t enter a marathon without doing some preparation. You won’t trust yourself or feel confident making a big decision without having practised making small decisions first. You are much more likely to procrastinate and make a snap decision or no decision.
Tip 2 – Create the Right Mind Set
What are you thinking? What’s your CHATTERBOX telling you?
Remember the Self Fulfilling Prophecy. ‘You are what you think’. If you think you’re not good enough for that next step forward in your career you’ll put off updating your CV, applying for a new job or going for promotion. And surprise you’re still stuck where you where this time last year. Look for the evidence that you are good enough. Find opportunities for giving yourself a pat on the back. Change your inner voice!
Tip 3 – Make No-Lose Decisions
Go ahead and make a decision knowing that there is no failure, only feedback. You will have a set of experiences if you choose A, B or C. Each will be different and each is the right path.
Tip 4 – Let Go of The Outcome
It might even be better than you imagined!
Tip 5 – Don’t Be Afraid to Correct.
Seek feedback, if something needs to be altered that’s OK. It’s OK to change your mind. We have a culture of judging people who stop, change their mind and move in a different direction as flaky. Look at some of the huge projects that fail because no one dared change their mind.
Tip 6 – Trust Your Intuition (Inner Teacher)
Get as much info from as many sources as you can. Sit with it or go to sleep on it. Listen to that inner voice, you might not recognise it if you’re got into the habit of ignoring it.
Or get in touch if you would like some help making those decisions. GO ON MAKE THAT DECISION NOW!